10 Signs On Your Partner’s Social Media Profile That You Two Have No Future Together
Most people would prefer to know if their current relationship or the one they want to enter would have a future or if they would be wasting their time with that person. I know how many times I wished I was a clairvoyant in the hindsight of a broken relationship.
I would never have wasted my time and energy in that relationship and neither would I have invested my feelings in that relationship and for me, that is what hurts the most. The fact that I invested my feelings into something that turned out to be worthless.
It is much harder to get over a relationship with someone you actually loved. It is a long and painful process, and sometimes you never get over it. You just learn to live with him holding a part of your heart. But the question is how then do we know if this new relationship is going to be the one or just another waste of time in a long line of wasted effort.
Except for those few with the second sight, the rest would just have to live with not knowing and just have to trust blindly until we meet the right man. However, we don’t have to lose half of our heart to people who don’t deserve it before we find the one nor do we have to become fully jaded before meeting the right one for us, and on the plus side, we also don’t have to waste our time on hopeless relationships.
There are so many ways to figure out if your relationship is just heading for a dead end or if there really is a future in it for you. Some of those ways include watching his reaction to certain things, paying close attention to his recent behavior toward you. There are many other but the one way I would be writing about today is through his activities on the social media platforms.
These days there isn’t anybody who does not know what social media is all about and hardly anybody who isn’t on one of the numerous social media platforms available. From kids to high schoolers to even grandmas, everyone is on social media.
In fact, it is beginning to look like the internet is a city of its own hence the “global village” description. Businesses are being built on social media. It’s like a world of its own. People can even have different lives and a whole new personality from theirs on social media, and most often than not, people’s true characters are shown via their activities in social media.
I bet your partner is on social media and you can tell a lot about the lives of people from their social media activities. Voila, you can also tell the status of your relationship from your partner’s social media activities. Although, I have to say here that not everybody lives a true life on social media. Most people have taken the anonymity of social media to mean that they could live fake lives.
Here are 10 good signs that should alert you to the fact that your partner does not see you or your relationship as part of his future.
1. YOU DON’T EXIST IN YOUR PARTNERS LIFE ONLINE.
On almost all social media platforms from Snapchat to Facebook to Twitter to Instagram and even a simple WhatsApp status update there is an opportunity for people to share their online lives with their partners. After all, a celebrity couple isn’t a couple until they have become Instagram official.
For the rest of us who might not have as much following, there is a specification on our Facebook profiles that is meant to indicate if we are in a relationship and who it is with. Let’s say that for reasons known to you; you don’t want to change your profile, a simple post about you and your girlfriend doing something will suffice. And just like the celebrities, you too can post a picture of you and your partner.
But, if you have discovered that in none of your partner’s social media platforms does your relationship with him exist, it is a cause for concern. Don’t be lured to think that he does not post anything on social media about you because he wants your relationship to be private. Please just don’t. He is not Justin Bieber, and you aren’t Selena Gomez.
There is no need for the secrecy. If he is keeping your relationship quiet on social media, it is because he does not want to acknowledge your relationship with him and probably because he wants people to think that he is still single. One psychologist Yvonne Thomas thinks that your significant other does this because he has a whole different life online and does not see a future for your relationship.
2. YOUR PARTNER IS ALWAYS COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR ACTIVITIES ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
One very important sign that no one should overlook when it comes to their relationship is a complaint. If your partner is complaining about literally everything you do, it is a red flag, and it means that he is losing interest in you and that relationship or he has fully lost interest and is trying to provoke you into breaking up with him.
So if your partner is complaining about literally everything you post on social media, something is wrong. Everything you do on social media is wrong from your pictures “Why did you post that picture where your leg is bent? Or did you have to post six pictures of your day to your timeline? This is a sign that he is not happy with you and that relationship. You should probably begin to wait for the breakup speech.
3. YOUR PARTNER IS A REGULAR CASANOVA WITH OTHER PEOPLE’S PROFILES AND PHOTOS.
If someone is really serious about his relationship and sees a future in it, they do not hide it. It would be on social media. These days there are multiple ways for people to acknowledge their relationships or for people to subtly make their crushes known to them and to their friends and followers on any social media platform.
Most notably of those is the #MCM and #WCW. I know a couple that got together because she was his #WCW and he was her #MCM, and from there they got to talking and discovered that they liked each other. Take for example a friend of yours whose boyfriend is always making her his #WCW every single week or tagging her and saying something nice about her. There would be no hiding that relationship.
However, if your partner does none of these and does not in any way acknowledge you in social media but he is very good at making flirtatious comments on other people’s posts, and posting pictures of other people on his social media pages and captioning it with flirtatious things, it is a huge red flag. Don’t even question them, just walk away as quickly as possible. Your partner is technically cheating on you on social media no less.
4. YOUR PARTNER IS ALWAYS POSTING SONG LYRICS TO EXPRESS HIS FEELINGS AND NOT THE MUSHY TYPE
Although posting music lyrics is so middle school, it does indicate something though. If your partner has resorted to posting lyrics from songs, it could mean that they are really immature. However if the lyrics are not of the mushy variety but about depressing songs, then something is horribly wrong. Watch out; if your significant other is posting lyrics from Mad World, you need to rethink that relationship.
5. YOUR PARTNER NEVER MENTIONS YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA
This isn’t a big deal if your partner doesn’t post much online, but for someone who is always using all the social media platforms, this is a bad sign. It’s a sign that your partner doesn’t want others to know they’re taken, leaving the possibility open for other romantic approaches. It shows they’re unhappy with you and could be on the brink of breaking things off.
6. YOUR PARTNER ONLY COMMUNICATES WITH YOU WELL ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Well, although this might not really make you be unsatisfied with your partner it does indicate a lack of good communication, and without good communication between you and your partner, your relationship would not last long. If the only way he can communicate with you is by uploading pictures of both of you online and creating a facade of a loving, perfect relationship but in person, you guys pretty much ignore yourselves, your relationship is fake, and it is better for you to leave that relationship and not waste your time.
7. YOUR PARTNER MAKES EVASIVE COMMENTS THAT SHOW THAT HE IS NOT HAPPY WITH YOU.
If your partner is unhappy with you, he might not come out to say it clearly because sometimes they don’t want to hurt you but they would subtly make their displeasure known to you. He would make enigmatic comments about your relationship and things that you post on social media. He is gearing to break up with you and trying to find a foothold on which he can leave.
8. YOUR PARTNER IS A MEMBER OF DIFFERENT WEIRD GROUPS
It is never good to go through someone’s browser history or to stalk them on social media even if they were your partner. But sometimes, it might be okay to know what they are up to especially when you have your suspicions about them based on the way they have been acting recently.
If by chance you come across your partner’s profile on Facebook and you discover that he has joined some groups that have something to do with dating or meeting other people, it most likely means that he might be cheating on you and it would be a whole lot better if you left that relationship.
9. YOUR PARTNER DISTANCES HIMSELF FROM YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
Like I said before if you don’t have a relationship with your partner on any social media platform, it is a bad sign that your relationship does not have much of a future for him. But if you notice that he is actively trying to distance himself from you on social media, it could mean that he does not want his friends and followers on social media to know about you much less link both of you romantically.
How does he actually ignore you?
He untags himself from any pictures or posts that you tag him in. He might even stop you from ever tagging him in anything. He might block you from seeing his timeline in which case, he might be hiding something, and if you tag him in a meme, he does not comment anything positive, or he does not comment at all.
These are all different ways that he could be letting his lack of interest be known to you. If your partner is doing these things to you, then maybe both of you need to have a conversation
10. YOUR PARTNER IS FOREVER CHANGING HIS PROFILE PICTURE.
People change their profile pictures because the old one has stayed a long time or they have changed in appearance, or they want attention, and most often than not, it is the latter reason that most people change their profile pictures.
So, if you notice that your partner is forever changing up his profile and profile pictures, he might be doing it to gain attention from other people or trying to make himself look more appealing in a romantic way. Watch out; he just might be seeking romantic attention from someone other than you.
You need to know that sometimes noticing one of these 10 signs may not really be a basis for you to feel that your relationship has no future. The unit could just be a one-off thing. But if you notice more than 5 of these signs simultaneously, then you and your partner need to have a long conversation about the future of your relationship.