12 Things That Destroy A Relationship Faster Than Anything
After the dating years comes the engagement and then the wedding. After that, life as a couple begins. As a newly married couple, there will be a lot of adjustments and compromises to be made as both partners get used to having a new permanent roommate. There could be a lot of irritation and complaints at first as both partners try to let each other know what they like, what they do not, and what they can tolerate. Even after that, it will probably still take a while for them to get used to things and act accordingly. In the meantime, there may be some disagreements.
Mostly though, women have been very forthcoming about what their men do that irritates them. One thing that annoys them the most is when men “forget” to put down the toilet lid when they are done. Somehow, men all over the world have been taught to do this from a very young age, yet still, they forget. Another thing that irritates them is leaving a wet towel on the chair. It is annoying to women, and they have let their voices be heard over and over again. But this begs the question, what do women do after marriage that is annoying to men?
Well, wonder no more. In this article, you will get a unique perspective from the husband’s side, on what annoys them most about their women, once the wedding band is on! Ready?
12. SOMETIMES MEN DON’T KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS WHAT THEY FEEL, BUT IT DOESN’T MEAN THAT THEY DON’T FEEL IT.
It makes a man happy to see his woman dress up in something colorful, even if he can’t differentiate whether is royal blue or sky blue. It doesn’t matter, he is just glad to see you looking hot, and he’s proud that you are only his! What guy wouldn’t be happy to have the best-dressed, most beautiful woman on his arm? He is so busy admiring you and thinking about how he hit the jackpot when he married you, that he doesn’t realize she asked you that dreaded question that all women ask before they leave the house. “Honey, how do I look?”
At this point, he gets tongue-tied as he desperately tries to find the words to express what is in his heart. He does not know how to tell you that you look as scorching as the sun, as beautiful as a sunset and as bright as the stars in the night sky. Most men are not poetic creatures, especially that quickly, and they struggle to translate that into words. Sometimes they fail to be as elaborate as their minds are or they commit the mortal sin of being honest. He might feel that a particular outfit makes you look heavier or makes your boobs look too big. Thinking that you would appreciate his honesty, he tells you, only to find himself on the receiving end of a tirade. To be honest, it makes men angry or irritated because they do not understand why “You look good!” or “That gown makes you heavy.” could have made you mad at them, especially if you feel that you were just honest.
11. MEN HATE HEARING ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE’S LIFE, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY HAVE NO REAL CONNECTION TO THAT PERSON.
Ladies, if your man loves you then he probably enjoys hearing you talk about yourself; However, he does not want to hear about your friends love life. To him it is unnecessary, and besides, most guys don’t like to talk about other people, especially if they don’t know them or aren’t close to them. It’s irritating. He does not want to know how your best friend had a one night stand and at what bar and last Saturday. So, please, stop. Talk to him about anything you want, like your health, your day, as long as it is related to you.
10. TRY TO SHOW SOME ENTHUSIASM AND APPRECIATION WHEN HE DOES SOMETHING SWEET FOR YOU NO MATTER HOW TIRED YOU ARE.
When a man loves you, I mean really loves you, your comfort is his priority. Your happiness is his happiness. Your words mean so much to him, and your opinions are taken into consideration when making his decisions. So, imagine this scenario: A man decides to treat his wife to a dinner-free night because he knows that work must have been terrible. When she comes home, he is trying to be nice and asks her where she wants to go for dinner. She answers “I don’t know” or “Anywhere.” This type of lax answer is annoying to a man because he wants to make the experience complete for her by treating her to her favorite place. Besides, not being excited and grateful may suggest his efforts are not unappreciated and could cause him not ever to do something like that.
9. TRY TO TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS.
With love comes a lot of new things. The object of your feelings becomes an extension of yourself. You feel their pain, their happiness, their struggles, their worries, their fear, their joy. You feel everything they do, and I think this is where that need to make the woman or man you love happy all the time comes into play. You cannot bear for them to be hurt, and if they are sad, you want to know why and how you can take it all away. Granted, some people who do not like sharing their fears, and their problems and it is understandable, but for those who have no problem sharing their worries, it is not cool at all. Your man notices that you look sad and then he begins to feel the same way. Then he asks you why you are unhappy so that he could help you if he can. When you shut him out by telling him that it is nothing which annoys an irritates men. Why not tell them what you feel? If the opposite happened, women would expect the men to talk about their issues.
8. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, NEVER COMPARE YOUR BOYFRIEND TO YOUR EX.
Sometimes couples fight, and in the heat of an argument, each partner is trying their hardest to hurt the other as much as they can. When things have gotten so heated between them, the women sometimes resort to the one thing that will cripple a man’s ego. She compares him to her guy friends or worse, her ex-boyfriend. No man wants to hear, even if his woman does not mean it, that the man before him was better than him. It bruises their fragile egos, and if care is not taken, he could never get over that statement, and it could end up destroying the relationship.
7. HE IS NOT YOUR EX, STOP SUSPECTING HIM.
Perhaps your ex-boyfriend was a cheating asshole, who routinely made use of the “I have to work extra hours at the office” excuse. It happens to people; But when you enter a new relationship, drop your suspicions about men and view this man as a new person, who is not as your ex-boyfriend. I’m not saying that you should ignore and forget all the lessons you learned from your previous relationships, but try to lay off a little bit. He could be the one, and your suspicious nature could ruin what could have been a fantastic relationship. Cut him some slack, maybe he did get stuck at work with some extra thing. Suspicion is one of the fastest killers of any relationship. After doubt comes, distrust and relationships without trust are on a countdown to destruction. No man would be happy if your suspicions, made him feel like he had to give you an hourly account of his day. He would soon get tired of the whole thing and possibly, walk away.
6. LADIES, KEEP THOSE PRIVATE THINGS PRIVATE.
I know your girlfriends want to know just how things stand between you guys. They want to know if your man is as considerate and as kind as your past lovers. They want to know every single little thing about your new boyfriend, and you usually oblige them. Wrong move. Don’t share everything that you and your man do in the privacy of your house. Men don’t like that, and it makes them feel uncomfortable when in the presence of your friends. Keep your private life private. Your man holds his privacy in high esteem.
5. SAVING IS GOOD, BUT DON’T BE A MANIAC ABOUT IT.
Women are much more inclined to think about the future than men. When I say think about the future, I mean 20 years down the line, two weeks down the line even tomorrow. They do this because they want to be sure that they can foresee any event and plan for it, and one of those things is kids. Women want to begin to save up for their future child’s college tuition very early. They want to save up so that their kids can have a better life, full of opportunities, and this is a laudable act. Thumbs up to women for this, but it gets annoying when you become a maniac about these things. You begin to bug your man too much about saving or not being around. You leave the man confused and unhappy. So, while it is good to stash money away, try not to go overboard.
4. TAKE CARE NOT TO BASH HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY. IT WON’T WIN YOU ANY POINTS.
When a man loves his partner, he pays close attention to her opinions, and it can be very uncomfortable for him always to have to listen to her bash other people who are close to him like his friends and family members. It might make him begin to question your presence in his life because his friends and family suited him just fine before you came along and to him, you might be trying to alienate him from his friends and family, and he would not take kindly to that. Even if you have something to say about his friends and family that is unsavory, use tact. Try to cushion your words and blunt the edges so that he would not take offense or get annoyed with you. Men don’t like when their women complain about they way they act or talk. It makes him feel like a child, and his ego will take a hit, and you honestly don’t want that to happen. If you have to lecture him on his behavior, please try to be tactful.
3. CELEBRATION IS GOOD JUST DONT OVERDO IT.
At first, you man really likes that you want to celebrate important dates and events with him such as the day you became official, your birthdays, the day you got engaged, and your wedding day. However, it begins to discomfort him when every single thing in your lives turns into a holiday. The day he cooked dinner anniversary, the day we came back from our honeymoon anniversary, the day his friend got engaged anniversary. It becomes just too much for him.
2. DON’T NAG HIM FOR ATTENTION WHEN YOU CAN SEE THAT HE IS TRYING TO SECURE YOUR FUTURE.
It is a laudable thing for a man to realize that he has to secure the future of his wife and their unborn kids financially. He begins to work even harder and takes on extra hours or extra jobs. In his quest for your comfort, he really might not be around a whole lot like he used to be, and it is then left for you to be an understanding woman and help relieve his tiredness when he comes home. It is going to be annoying to him for his woman to nag him about attention when she can see that he wants it but can’t afford it.
1. FORGIVE AND FORGET.
We have heard those three words numerous times, and most often than not women don’t adhere to those three words. Sometimes like I said when both partners argue, both spouses would want to hurt each other with words and he can say something that he does not mean at all. It’s just that even after apologizing numerous times, women don’t take that into account next time they are arguing with you they are most likely to bring it back up and make the man feel alternatively annoyed and dad.
As women, it is essential for you to know who your man is. Learn what makes him bristle even if it is done in private. It would help you bond on a deeper level with him and prevent a lot of trouble.