A Man’s Date is Horrified to Discover She Has to Pay For Her Own Lobster
The social landscape has changed with regard to what individuals do on their very first date and even more so with relationship generally. There are no generalities in regards to what people do for love or dating. On the other hand, the principles of common sense should be used and applied to pretty much everything in life.
Nowadays, folks are less faithful and inclined to turn a date into a long term relationship, but that is a generality since there are individuals around who are bound by what they believe in and things which cause individuals to become inseparable. A much better way to describe it is, “many” people nowadays are in a shallow location in regards to dating.
Additionally, nowadays, folks are not likely to have a lot of additional cash to spend and just waste. So common sense would imply that on a first date, both people should likely each cover their own beverages and meals unless there’s some factor involved which would indicate one of both ought to cover.
So a Reddit user posted screenshots of his texts between him and the date he had, showing that a girl had asked him out on a date but she was extremely upset he did not pay for her.
The matter is, according to the texts she opted to buy a £72 bottle of wine, and also the man simply paid £14 for carbonara and a beer. Additionally, the girl invited him on the date, also based on how offended she had been that he did not pay, it seems very much like the only motive she had to inviting him on this date would be to make him pay for a meal which costs over £100. If a guy was exploited to paying so much for a girl’s meal, if it is uneven such as this and she was not offering anything in return, in Cali we would call him a mark.
There’s a difference between doing something nice for someone in a mutual relationship, and being manipulated into paying for someone’s meal because they believe they can do that. People have to assert themselves.
This guy definitely replied with some coldness. “You invited me. You are lucky you didn’t pay for my food too,”he said.
Then she replied “I’m never going out with you ever again, if you can’t pay for a girl’s food then why accept the invite.
Gentlemen always pay for girls’ food.”
Then she came out with the bombshell: “i guess you are gay.”
It is apparent she had no intention of doing anything but hauling him into paying for her meal. Doing this is treating him like a fool, such as a comprehensive mark. No one but a fool could cover a person’s food while they act like this, there is a very clear distinction between being polite and being taken advantage of.
Some of the comments read:
“If someone invites me out then I go because I want to see that person and would never expect a free meal. That would be selfish and entitled.”
“I’m a girl and I always go into the mindset that I pay for my drinks/food with anyone. Guy or girl.
“If they offer to pay I’ll let them but offer to pay theirs next time we go out.”
“Anyone that expects that royalty treatment is not someone you want in your life. Good move.”
It’s common sense when you recognize in person what the intentions of someone are. Doesn’t even have to be said, manipulators are not usually good at concealing things from anyone but susceptible people.