15 Things Grown Women Give Zero F*cks About
It is a common phenomenon all over the world that a lot of women are expected to meet ridiculously high standards to be respected or looked upon as an individual or honor.
It can be a very frustrated life to lead, a life where you are expected to behave in a certain way, and this applies to when, where and how you choose to entertain yourself, work and so forth. And remember that the men don’t get to be subjected to these rules.
So it is important to stop worrying about all these things now. Ladies, I guess it is time to for you to stop really caring about what people wanted from them and focus on what you guys want for yourselves.
It is about time you spent all or most of your time on things that interest and fascinates you. By the way, when you begin to follow your heart, you will find out that a lot of the things that are expected of you in our modern world aren’t that important. Just be focused on being a better version of yourself, and the rest of your life’s pieces would fall into place.
That may be a hard and difficult step to take because very few women travel this path, but you have to remember that those who do are very happy they did. These women are very strong, successful and confident women who didn’t get worried about the small things in life. Instead, they were attracted to the fact that they could set goals and then strive to attain them. And when you compare their lives to that of an average woman, they just stand out like a light beacon. They are more successful and happier individuals than the average folk. And they did this by not caring about what other people thought of them and instead be themselves and be confident enough to chase their own dreams.
Getting after their passions and desires every single day with a lot of hard work, positivity and gratitude.
So, having read this far, would you want to have the amazing lives that a lot of strong women have? Do want to just get over the annoying anxiety issues that keep nagging at your tailcoat?
Then keep reading, because this article is going to go in depth into what strong women completely ignore to have a happy life and how to become numb to all this unnecessary social engineering.
Now, you have to know that some of the points below may not be easy to digest but that is what it is. Adapt quickly and be happy.
Stop giving a f*ck about your ex.
Yes, you heard me right. Just stop it. I know that that can be a very tough thing to do but just know that the amount of energy you spend on such people and your relationship with them isn’t going to yield any useful returns.
Yes, this was someone you deeply fell in love with and invested a lot of your time and energy into seeing that they were happy or doing well and now it seems like all that hard work has gone to waste. Just remember that first of all, this is all in the past. And that you have your whole life ahead of you. You can’t afford to spend it wallowing in sorrow and misery, thinking of someone who has already moved on. That time and energy are better spent trying to become a better version of yourself.
Keep in touch with your friends and family members and avoid being sucked into your exes drama. Move on for real!
Stop giving a f*ck about fashion.
When it comes to women’s fashion, things could get out of hand really fast. With rationality giving way to all sorts of ridiculousness. Imagine a scenario where ladies pants are intentionally made with small, impractical pockets, just to create an artificial need for purses.
Yeah, doesn’t that induce a negative jaw drop?
A good old thrift store shirt with a jean and maybe a cardigan is all you really need to get through most of the year. And please don’t go all crazy when it comes to makeup. Yes, it may seem that every single imperfection is glaring to you but believe me sweety, no one would really notice, and strangers don’t really care.
Time, effort and money that is being spent on such activity or any related activities are resources that would have gone a long way to push you further ever so close to your goals. Stop wasting your resources; the shiny stuff isn’t worth it.
Stop giving a f*ck about “ladylike” etiquette.
This was said at the beginning of this article. And this point is just an opportunity to die deeper into the reason why the statement of ridiculous standards was made at first. Ladies what makes you a lady is how you comport yourself as a woman of character and not based on your ability to almost disappear into the background, looking like lifeless dolls. Being smart, action-oriented, and opinionated are things that add flavor to your personality and make you uniquely you.
What makes you beautiful are not your hairless calves and pits. Instead what should make you attractive is your ability reason well and take appropriate action both as an individual and as a team player. Grown women don’t get worried over such things but instead focus on being better thinkers and leaders.
Stop giving a f*ck about your mistakes.
Look, everyone makes mistakes. There is not a single person who ever did anything worthwhile with their lives who didn’t make a mistake. And so you are no different. Don’t let intrusive thoughts take over your whole day and ruin your chances of taking action. Yes, that mistake that happened some few weeks or years ago is in the past, and so far as you have understood why you made that mistake and you are ready to move on from that pattern, the don’t worry about it ruining your future endeavors.
The mistake was long dead the day you learned your lesson.
Success is almost never a one or two-time thing. And so by default, those who have achieved great success are those who have failed the most. Grown women are very good at coming to terms with their mistakes and moving on. Please do so.
Stop giving a f*ck about shady friends.
There is a well known saying that you are the average of the five you hang out with. And so if you hang out with five losers you would definitely become the 6th. And the same goes for those who hang around winners, they themselves would become winners too.
For a lot of people, they put their lives in jeopardy just so that they can maintain an unhealthy relationship with some of their friends who don’t have the same mission as they do. Grown ladies make friends based on what their own lives are about. They wouldn’t like to be friends with a gossip who is only good at telling everyone else’s story except for theirs. That would take a lot of time and resources from them. And so they avoid such people. Instead, they would gravitate towards people who are interested in bettering their lives. Leave toxic friends and family. They are never worth the sacrifice in the long run and sooner or later that negativity that has infected them will eventually envelop you.
Stop giving a f*ck about fitting in.
See, you shouldn’t be worried about trying to fit into a social group or gathering when you know deep within you that you don’t share the same values. Grown women know this, they don’t have any spare energy for pretending to fit into relationships or organizations that have a culture that just doesn’t click with her. She is fine with standing out in the crowd. In fact, she hungers for that. She wants to be separated from the competition in any and every single way possible.
She is very much about beating her own path. She finds such adventure for more appealing than blindly following that of others.
They love to be themselves because they know that that is the easiest way to stand out. Being yourself comes with some benefits, see when you are truly yourself, you wouldn’t have too many terrible friends as those who share your value system will gravitate towards them while you will repel those who you don’t want around your circle of influence. And this all happens simultaneously.
Stop giving a f*ck about things you can’t control.
There are very few things that we can control compared to the many events and situations that life throws at us. But instead of getting upset and grumpy at the cards we are dealt in life, it is better to quickly adjust to what you have and make the best use of it.
Instead of spending energy and time on thinking about why something happened to you, instead spend that and all your resources on the very few things that you want to achieve. Someone said, “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”.
Stop giving a f*ck about your status.
Be very careful of falling into the slimy pit of vanity. As much as luxury is a great thing, having luxurious items tied to your self-esteem can be very damaging. And I would tell you why. Luxury items have a very short lifespan – there will always be a new shiny thing. And since these luxurious items never end so is the chase for them. It is a never-ending cycle of trying to feel good about yourself, with the duration of the joy and self-esteem boost of the latest luxury item shorter than its predecessor.
It is a losing battle, instead, let your self-esteem be healthily wrapped around your constant self-improvement. And that is what grown women do. They don’t get their self-esteem from Chanel handbags, but they get their self-esteem from channeling their energy and time into more resourceful ventures.
Stop giving a f*ck about basic toxic relationships
Look, you should get to a point in your life where you get tired of the drama that is characteristic of negative and toxic relationships. People would be people and assholes would always tend to be assholes. You must avoid such people. Run away from such people; they are only going to slow down or completely halt the progress you are making in becoming a better version of yourself.
Believe you me when I say that these people aren’t concerned about your progress. They want to pull you down, and they are ready to cook up a windstorm of drama and toxicity to keep you where they want you to be. Be very wary of such people, don’t try to change them – you can’t.
Stop giving a f*ck about your image.
When you get too caught of in your image and how the public perceives you, you can’t truly be you. Don’t worry about how people perceive instead focus on having the right intentions when you ate dealing with people and be willing to grow and evolve. When you get to caught up in building a certain persona that isn’t truly you, then you would be setting yourself up for failure.
You will attract people who you really don’t want around you, into your life. Which will cause you a lot of stress, anxiety and even depression.
When you are yourself all the time, you attract people who are just like you and you would have an amazing and truly fulfilling life.
Stop giving a f*ck about what other people think
You were born alone, and when you die, you will do so alone. Don’t get fooled by friends and family and the hustle and bustle of the world. Also whatever decisions you make between your birth and your death, you would bear the results first, and the impacts of these results would be heaviest on you. Once you understand this, then you wouldn’t be worried about other people’s opinion of how you should live your life.
You are 100% in charge of making your life a happy one. So that should always guide you whenever you make decisions that would affect your life. You can’t live your life for others and be happy. You are just inviting misery to your door.
Stop giving a f*ck about being right all the time
You are not perfect and guess what? Nobody is either. When you are navigating through the ups and downs of life, it is important to take action, make mistakes and learn from them. Trying always to be right wouldn’t do you any good. Being strong doesn’t always mean being courageous enough to do the daredevil stuff. It also means being courageous to admit that you are wrong and a work in progress.
Deal with it; you are human. You would make mistakes – hurt someone or do something that others and even you don’t approve of. But you win and learn. Take responsibility for your actions and then strive to be a better human being. It is really that simple. That is the whole idea behind self-development.
Stop giving a f*ck that you’re single.
Yes, it so important that you pay attention to this point. When you are single, it is very easy to blame yourself for being single and then end up rushing into a relationship that wasn’t meant for you. See, being single isn’t a sin. And there is nothing wrong with a single woman. In fact, it is important to have such times because they help you to self-reflect on your life.
When you are single, and just out of a bad breakup, it is very important to focus on learning new skills that would help you become a better individual. Don’t focus on your being single, instead focus on the opportunity that presents itself for you to be a better woman
Stop giving a f*ck about expressing yourself in bed.
When it comes to your sex life, it is important that you are with someone who wants you to be satisfied in bed. With that, your sex life would be exciting. Even if your partner isn’t skilled, just knowing they would be willing to learn – thus becoming better at satisfying you.
But to do this then you also have to be upfront and open about how you feel about such issues. If you aren’t being satisfied in bed, you tell your partner in a nice way and also offer solutions to the problem. That way your partner doesn’t become insecure about his abilities in bed.
Stop not giving a f*ck about your health.
Now not in the sense that you decide not to take care of yourself and instead indulge in self-destructive behavior. You can’t be undisciplined in the way you consume alcohol and other harmful substances such as foods that contain a lot of processed sugar and expect to be rewarded for such a socially damaging behavior.
You have to change all these bad habits if you want to live a long and happy life. But at the same time that doesn’t mean that you should hate yourself if you have found yourself in such a situation. Focus on changing that situation, crying and self-pity have never solved any problem. Get on your feet and make the change you want to see in your life.